Healing note.. thoughts create feelings

I respect and honor your feelings. 

Your feelings come from thoughts. 

Some of your feelings seem quite uncomfortable to have. 

I know you are worthy and can have happiness. 

We can change how you feel by focusing on your thinking. 

For me, this was foundational to changing my life for the better. I feel better, see things better, the world is brighter, and these positives create even more positives in my life. 

Inner work, “4 agreements” type material, be kind to yourself always.

Using others & being used

Emotionally underdeveloped people can be big users.

Detached from authentic self and feelings, they don’t know their worth and in many cases, find it not by who they are, but by what they do.

Doing becomes a currency for love.. Particularly with themselves. It starts there. They have all these feelings they don’t know what to do with, unhealed trauma, (mostly unconscious) emotional cloudiness, emotional immaturity, inner conflict, etc. By doing, achieving the things, fitting in, they by comparison, can feel like they are OK. Doing alright.

If they are not doing enough to have the “happy life like everyone else“ by appearance, they push themselves to do more.

In doing this one may achieve more, but it can come with many costs.

Unchecked, this dishealth only grows, and there is never enough to have lasting happiness.

Self warfare, shaming, self rejecting, leads to a furthering loss of connection to one’s own true inner feelings and does not lead to personal happiness or peace, self acceptance.

There can be a big fork in the road that many times happens in early development..

Do you truly feel enough, safe, secure, to live in alignment with your authentic self and kindness, and love? Or do you not feel enough, unsafe, and insecure to truly let go into being your authentic kind and loving self? Do you have a real sense of your feelings? Are you afraid of having feelings?

Do you know the difference between feelings and thoughts? I didn’t for a long time.

If you are cloudy about your feelings or the difference between your thoughts and feelings, some exploration of this can be very beneficial.

When you choose option B, or it was chosen for you, no matter… If you live by pushing yourself rather than being pulled by your authentic feelings, if doing allows you to feel enough, if you’d beat yourself up for not doing, this is all self warfare, shaming kind of stuff.

Don’t beat yourself up. It can run deep and be very historical. You are not bad or wrong and can heal from it.

When you deny your feelings, you use yourself. Rather than authentically and intimately loving and growing yourself, you’re just using you to check boxes as you push through life (many times in very unsatisfying ways!).

The love or care style that one gives to themselves is all they can give to others. They’ll use you, put you uncomfortable situations, and call it love.

Are you doing this to yourself now?

(Here is the best part… all you really gotta do is be yourself. Give yourself permission to accept who you are. Know your value comes from being here now. Find yourself, find your best life. Inner work will free you!)

New world

As we as a species evolve, particularly spiritually, and emotionally, the unit body takes on new and more mature levels of awareness. Gone are the days of guilt and shame, spoiling the child by sparing the rod, and cum are the days of unconditional love, Harmony, and peace for all. The key in the step is unconditional love. There is no God to strike you down, make you wrong. Only God that wishes to lift you up, each, and every time you might happen to fall. As we transition into this new arena, be prepared to take and make strides of your own personal growth. Life has never been able to be stopped. It’s creative force is working in you and around you as we speak. Hallelujah, God bless the divine. We are all here, we all move forward together.

Parenting

Parents, it will serve you well to find a way, an authentic way, to get on your child’s level.

That child needs to feel authentically, from you, that they are interesting, loved, and so cool and wonderful for being exactly who they are, however that is. All the time. 24/7, no exceptions.

It is essential that the child feels this energy from you. In doing this you are meeting essential foundational needs that will greatly affect every day forward of their life.

This does not mean a child does not need discipline. Discipline and structure help children feel safe and to know they are loved.

As individuals, to be seen, hopefully known, they must be supported as who they are so this foundational need of being enough to be loved is met.

Lost and found

Out there, there is a field that calms me, a flower that sees me, a hilltop vista that unlocks and transforms every cell in my body. Out there somewhere there is a breeze that touches me just right, a ray of sunshine bursting through the leaves renewing my soul.

There exists a tree that loves me back.

An ocean wave that shares its grace. A patch of grass where I’ve never felt more myself.

A moment in time, where my world slows. 

Somewhere in this world, there is a space, a place, for me, where all of my contentment is restored. Where my life comes together, and my furled little wings can spread wide. I know I find that place. I know it is for me.

Firefly

How far into the muck did you go?

Did you find your rainbow colored gold at the bottom?

Ride the bull for minutes rather than seconds?

Surf your biggest waves?

Have you faced death and died in the mirror?

Stepped outside of your suit to admire the necessity and creativity of your stories?

Did you learn yet to be gentle with yourself, the real value of life?

Have you found what makes you happy, or at least what works for you?

Did anyone ever tell you how beautiful you are for just being you?

Tides turning

I just made a choice, in this moment, to never give my power away again. I decide how I feel. Never again does there need to be a moment where I feel powerless, and all the potential and negative downstream effects that come with that.. Sure, there will be opportunities to grow along the way, things that come up.. no resistance, just acknowledgement, love, and patience.

I define me, and thoughts create feelings.

I’ll make the best of them because I want and worthy of the best for me.

So it’s my choice, and I’ll take it.