One way to look at anger that has helped me greatly..

All anger is never with anyone else, it is always with ourselves.

And anger largely stems from one or many of these four:

Unreconciled hurt.

Unreconciled fear.

Unreconciled loss.

Unreconciled disappointment.

So….

I have been getting into the heaviest stuff lately in terms of personal work. Last week, I decided that I would go back to these moments, right about the fear, loss, disappointment, hurt, about any and all of my life events. Or at least, the ones that I was working on. I wrote about those feelings that I had, discovering a lot about the feelings I had then, gave them a voice, validation. After listing those things, I wrote a little bit about it, and then, importantly, at the end, I reframed it with my adult and much more healthy and healed perspective, of course, honoring those feelings completely, and also adding new perspective.

Get it out. Validate those feelings. Sit with them. You are safe.

We make stories. It’s natural. Healing the old stories that served me then, and in the present with my new health, concepts, and freedom!

Once you’ve done this beneficial processing, Reframe reframe reframe!

Reframe it with positive thoughts, embodying your empowerment. That stuff is in the past now, and led you to this perfectly timed moment to grow and heal! You are doing it. You were never wrong. These are just experiences and now is your time to heal and really begin to own your worth.

Any questions, please reach out.

You are important!

Today is a day to feel love, forgiveness. Acceptance in the eyes of God. Love without conditions. God sees and knows your beauty. The gift is eternal. Your remembrance a key to understanding what comes from within. It is inside of you. Requires nothing more than your patience and stillness, feeling that wonderful heart within. You have it. Trust that you do. The key is your heart. The earth is your heart. We all are love wrapped in matter. We are strong. Our greatest strength is our heart. Jesus suffered, and love carried him through. That gift was passed to us all. Our heart is the strongest force in existence. Care for your heart, yourself, always in and with love. Love your neighbors. Love them all. In the end of your “life”, it will be your greatest reward to know you believed in yourself, loved yourself, and others. Just watch how it grows. What a legacy. In Jesus, a lesson, a gift, an eternity. Truly blessed to be here right now. Free your heart! Unconditional love..the greatest gift.

Dive in

To the liar what you said can’t be true.

To the one who’s trust is broken, you’re probably up to no good. 

To the broken hearted, your open heart may represent a threat of more pain. 

To the arrogant, your humility may be seen as weakness. 

To the unrestful, your peace may be seen as escape. 

To the immature, your maturity may be a bore.

To the materially driven, your simplicity may be seen as apathetic. 

To the unfree, your freedom may cause envy. 

To the martyr, your self care may be seen as selfish. 

To the self centered, your giving may be seen as disingenuous.

To the spiritual, your trust in life may be seen as shallow. 

To the non spiritual, your belief in something greater may be seen as naive. 

To the other, your truth may be seen as false.

And on and on. 

None of these are “wrong”. 

Just be you and let no one tell you how to be!

(And let them be them)

You are sitting comfortably and it is a perfect day. You are outside and the weather could not be better. As you look out it is clear and bright. There is a mountain in the distance boasting beautiful majestic peaks. Turquoise blue skies above. As your eyes travel down the mountain there is a sea of greens, both dark and light, with wonderful wildflowers painted throughout. Every color nature can offer. The gentle breeze that blows across your skin is moving the grass, the growth,  swaying and lifting the flowers all around as they return to face the sun. The colors are so vibrant, like they are singing a song inside of you, rejoicing just because. In the distance birds sing their song, and as you turn to look at the beautiful birds flying high towards the heavens, you see a small creek with glistening water. The landscape goes up and down and you only see parts of the creek, Leaving to your curious imagination how wide, how deep, how swift, and how far, the creek travels. Where does it start, where does it go? 

The gentle breeze continues to dance across your skin and the landscape, reminding everything of connection. This moment, so peaceful. Your heart loves with it all. 

The sun, so warm and gentle, feeling inside and out and throughout, the glow of the beautiful day. It is in the air. Tickling the small hairs your soft skin, your face smiling aglow. 

You are at a train station. Outside, in the countryside. Maybe you were there to travel, maybe you were there to observe. Time seems to have slowed. The day is enough. This moment, enough. Trains come and they go. Sometimes you hear them as they approach, and others, they just appear. All different, yet, moving along down the line, while you remain peacefully, just being, gentle, calm, and sweet, like the day.

Everyone does the best they can in the moment.

.. it is helpful to consider mental and emotional health.

We don’t know what we don’t know. We cannot feel what we cannot feel.

When you accept yourself, you can accept others.

Can you accept and forgive yourself that you did your best at the time?

Let it go. You did your best with what you had available.

Let it go.

If they deserve forgiveness, you do too!