Inside of you is someone very special just being exactly how they were born. Living in modern society, there can be a lot of social programming, lot of character and motivation constructed upon external values and external validation.
Really, the answer is within ourselves. To trust ourselves, that we know what is best. To follow our heart, rather than based on shame, trying to fit in, comparing. There is no comparison for you.
Designing a life of wants rather than should, has wonderful possibilities. Imagine, healthy, self, loving you, trusting you, doing what you want, rather than feeling like you should.
It is an entirely possible reality. Start today by loving yourself, getting to know yourself, and really finding what makes your heart happy. The answer is you. It’s always been your choice.